Autism part 4: It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.



It’s not important what others see or believe, it’s important what you feel and trust inside  yourself. Avoid limits.

In my previous article I told you how together with the extremely positive feedback about my blog I got this opinions of three people that believed I do what I do to “demonstrate” something that I am not. That my work and life style (having the incredible blessing to be able to travel with my family and my loved ones (a part of my voluntary work) and visiting high-priced places or being able to afford some particular clothing ecc. ) does not correspond one to another. Long story short they believed I am a “hypocrite” because I do voluntary work just to show what I am not (good or compassionate person with the will to help less fortunate ones or to bring a positive change in our society).



imageMy opinion and words are not going to defend or talk about me or other people who are vindicated that they do voluntary work with the purpose of lucrative. I will allow myself to turn your attention to something that in the case of doing or not doing beneficial work for the less fortunate for me personally is much more important. My thoughts are that we are all different and surely we have many different dreams ideas and beliefs. But from my experience I can tell you something very simple. Please,






When you cross the door and enter for the first time an institution that needs help your worldview is changing completely. At least it happened to me. When you are inside there, together with people that need your help (moral, physical, material, economical ) and you are able to give it to them because you are this very fortunate person, who has a little or a lot more than them that is the only thing that matters.

I personally really don’t loose time to think if somebody does voluntary work in order to also benefit himself from that. The only thing that matters to me is that he/she “sacrifices” their time, effort, money etc. to help these other people, the planet or every other living being. Because when you are in an institution and you see that thanks to a donor a cancer patient has her/his pills to be able to continue to fight for her/his life for me it doesn’t matter if the pills come from a person who donated 1000 euro publicly to show others how “generous” and cool he is. Because when you are inside of an institution no matter where, in Europe, Africa, America etc. and with your efforts a boy starts walking again after a big trauma it doesn’t matter if you did it for the likes of your selfie or to be famous with your “fakely” gracious heart. When a child has its food at night or its book so it can study and maybe one day find a way out of the extreme poverty I don’t care if the donor spend other 5 thousand for a pair of shoes on a regular basis and so on.


Consequently, if you got my point I can tell you I honestly can’t care less if someone thinks that I do or someone else does voluntary work to benefit out of that. The thing I care most is the work I did (or in general all the people who are involved in voluntary work do) and the change I brought in the lifes of the human beings I was blessed to work with and help them improve their life is the only thing that matters to me.

Instead of loosing our time in polemics why someone does that or doesn’t and what their aim is, I ask you from the bottom of my heart FOCUS on what you can do for others. Instead of loosing time in negative thoughts about the moral of the people who do voluntary work FOCUS on the consequences for the people who were able to be helped. And people, BELIEVE, because instead of TALKING now you can be DOING that even very little to make the world we live in a better place. And if you are able to help even just one kid to live better maybe TODAY it won’t change the world but for this one kid the WORLD will change forever. And remember: It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.

You CAN.

Love, Paris

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