“Every time I go back home I put them on the table.
2 for the poor.
10 for my kid.
20 for my wife.
And it could be that simple. Sounds materialistic, right, Paris? But deep inside my wife knows – I take care of her and she takes care of me” – a friend of mine once told me. He continued.
“But remember that you should take care of yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty glass.” – he added.
According to the science humans have six basic emotions – happiness, surprise, sadness, anger, fear and disgust. We also experience more complex feelings like embarrassment, shame, pride, guilt, envy, joy, trust, interest, contempt and anticipation. The complexity of our being often make it really hard to express our real emotions or to be enough adequate in our every day communication. The paradox is that we are really so versatile creatures that without deeper understanding of ourselves it can cause a psychic conflict leading to abnormal mental states or behavior even inside of us.
Hi, I am Paris, and as a person who was able to ” touch ” (or better beeing touched by) the world of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) kids I want to help you, my dear readers, to understand them. A close touch to their real world can make you understand and embrace their existence because unfortunately I have seen many situations where people find it hard to do so. Sometimes people think that people with autism are genius in onе area which can be partly true but surely not valid for all the people having autism.
First, you need to know that children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) often find it hard to recognize facial expressions and the emotions behind them. So as a volunteer I had to be very patient and well thought out and well balanced, to be able to deeply perceive their needs. While I was working with ASD kids I also noticed that for them is hard to copy or use emotional expressions or to understand and control their own emotions. Even nowadays I find it really hard to explain to people that for ASD kids sometimes is almost impossible to really understand and interpret emotions – they might lack, or seem to lack, empathy with others. But that doesn’t mean that if you are positive and spend enough time with them they can’t feel your good will and energy. I am writing this articles because I see every day people being “fearful” of the one different and often not allowing “the one” to adapt to the environment.
Keep it simple. Try to understand those that are different than you are. Try to accept every person that comes and goes in your life as a blessing.
While working with kids with autism in “Karin dom” I was present to something very special. Families coming at the end of the day to take their children home. And I was able to see all kind of emotions on their faces. There was fear, there was happiness, there was pain and ignorance. But one thing I was always able to recognize was always this micro emotion, a small wringle on their face. A vain that was suddenly shaking on their face. There was no need for them to recognize an empathy or feel their kids understand them. This very simple emotion that was enlarging the iris of their eyes when they were seeing their child. Simple, incredible and only. The emotion that is the most desirable in the whole world. The emotion we are all equal before. The emotion of pure, immense, limitless …LOVE.